nonbinarypastels:

don’t trust anyone who thinks they’re incapable of ever being abusive

don’t trust anyone who thinks that because of some aspect of their identity (their gender, their sexuality, their age, their race, their class, whatever) it means it’s impossible for them to be abusive.

don’t trust anyone who thinks that because of the things they’ve been through in life (that they were abused themself, that they have abuse survivors as friends or family members) it’s impossible for them to be abusive.

the point of this post is not to scare y’all or to make you feel like there are predators on every corner but to make you understand that if you are ever in an abusive situation and your abuser deflects and denies that what they’re doing to you is abuse by claiming any of these things (that “how can i be abusive? i’m ___!”) that they are 100% full of shit and you should not buy what they’re telling you.

anyone of any identity and any background could potentially be an abuser and people who deny that are not people you should trust because even if they’re not an abuser themself, they’re still pushing an agenda that inherently denies the lived experiences of abuse survivors who have been abused by the people they say are incapable of it and that’s still a shit thing to do.