by-grace-of-god:

“Someone asked me this week about “discerning” the person to marry. Here’s the deal: Most young Catholics (and other Christians) are overthinking this. People change over time. Find someone who wants to be a saint, who you like, and who is reasonably attractive. Marry them.

The fact is that you’ll grow together. If you’re rooted in a common faith, you’ll both change over time, but the things that matter will remain constant.

There’s an argument that if you don’t find *just* the right person, marriage is going to be really hard. Guess what? Marriage, no matter what, is going to be really hard. That’s the game, playa. The important things are repenting, forgiving, and praying.

Most of us have to do much more repenting than forgiving.

In my own life, I can say that neither I nor Mrs Flynn are the ppl we were when we got hitched at 23. So much has changed. In many ways we’ve grown together. In other ways we’ve grown or changed as individuals. What’s the same is Christ. the Holy Spirit. The Father.

And we’ve faced some serious trials that we only got through because of the grace of the sacrament. There have been times when both of us were predicting we’d probably not last. Or seasons of isolation or sadness. Without a common foundation in Christ, we’d be toast.

Obviously, none of this applies to NY Rangers fans or Iowa fans. Don’t marry those guys.”

– J. D. Flynn

* I’m assuming that he means choose someone who is ‘reasonably attractive’ to YOU since no one expects you to marry someone who repels you 🙂