Dont get me wrong, i love kids but they’re humans so if theyre bad, theyre (usually, unelss growing up in an abusive household ocf) awful by choice, even psychology shows this, while other animals are just being animals if they’re bad and they’re easier to teach

hislittleflower-throughconcrete:

patron-saint-of-smart-asses:

That doesn’t make humans lower in dignity to animals, nor does it make animals less of a challenge to care for.

I have a degree in developmental psychology and my job is to work with kids, and this is BS.

Children don’t act out because they are “being awful by choice.” They are trying to communicate their needs in the only way they know how. 

When the little girl I watch throws her dinner on the floor for the third time, she is not thinking “heh, let me make a mess for her to clean up.” She is telling me “I’ve been trying to tell you for many minutes now that I am full/will not eat any more of this, so this will get my point across better.”

Her big sister can sometimes have an “attitude” – be defiant, act out, etc. She used to really get on my nerves and even with all my training, I would view her as “naughty” – until now, as a preteen, she literally told me that she used to do that to get attention when my focus was always on the baby. All she wanted was love.

When volunteering at the hospital today, a little boy was being defiant in the playroom and literally screamed at the top of his lungs if I tried to tell him what to do in any way. His sister is ill in the hospital and everyone is ignoring him or bossing him around. He had hit his breaking point and that was his way of letting me know.

If anything, it is adults like some who have been responding to Ginny’s post who view kids as inherently bad or gross that can’t understand how children communicate and ignore their developmental, emotional, and psychological needs to the point that these adults push kids to exhibit “naughty” behavior.