Some quotes from the the article:
“This embarrassing scene happened two years ago and the episode is just one of the many challenges we have faced since Stephen, our second child, was born with Down’s Syndrome. So difficult has it been that I can honestly say I wish he hadn’t been born.“
“I know this will shock many: this is my son, whom I’ve loved, nurtured and defended for nearly half a century, but if I could go back in time, I would abort him in an instant.”
“Perhaps you’d expect me to say that, over time, I grew to accept my son’s disability. That now, looking back on that day 47 years later, none of us could imagine life without him, and that I’m grateful I was never given the option to abort.
However, you’d be wrong. Because, while I do love my son, and am fiercely protective of him, I know our lives would have been happier and far less complicated if he had never been born. I do wish I’d had an abortion. I wish it every day.
If he had not been born, I’d have probably gone on to have another baby, we would have had a normal family life and Andrew would have the comfort, rather than the responsibility, of a sibling, after we’re gone.”
“Instead, Stephen – who struggles to speak and function in the modern world – has brought a great deal of stress and heartache into our lives.
That is why I want to speak in support of the 92 per cent of women who choose to abort their babies after discovering they have Down’s Syndrome.”
“For my own part, however, I don’t think I will ever come to terms with Stephen’s disability.”
“One day, Stephen’s doctor sat us down and told us that Stephen needed an operation to remove his spleen. Without it, he said, he would ‘go to sleep and never wake up’. Those were his exact words.
Looking back, I believe the doctor was guiding us towards allowing our son to pass away naturally, but we were not much more than children ourselves, in our mid-20s, and didn’t understand then what he was trying to do for us.
I wish we had – it would have spared us all a great deal of pain.”
“Years ago, I was so worried about history repeating itself that Andrew, Roy and I went for genetic counselling at Guy’s Hospital in London and found Stephen was just ‘bad luck’.
I say ‘bad luck’, but that’s the greatest understatement that anyone can imagine.”
I know this was written in 2014, but it’s so, so awful. Yeah, it’s challenging to raise children with disabilities and yes, it will make your life harder, but the fact that she wishes she could go back in time and kill her son and have never had him, never known him, doesn’t really come across as love to me.
When you love someone, you don’t wish they had never been born because it would make your life easier. I feel so bad for her son, Stephen. Hopefully, he doesn’t know his mother feels this way. No child will think they are loved if they hear “I love you but I wish you had never been born. If I could go back in time, I would never have had you. If I could go back, I would take advantages of the opportunities I had to kill you because you make my life harder.“
This is incredibly sad. Hopefully Stephen has people in his life who really do love him and don’t wish he had never been born.
Aborting babies just because they have down syndrome is a horrible thing to do and wishing you could go back in time and kill your adult son before he was born just because it would make your life easier is not love. It’s horrific. People who struggle with disabilities aren’t less valuable than “normal” people. Shame on this woman and anyone who agrees with her.
I think it’s important to note that this kind of attitude is what people who kill their disabled children use to try and justify it. “I would be happier with him” and “He brings trouble to our lives”
Every time a case like that comes up, you can find the parent expressing words and opinions like that.
Imaging being so unfeeling and apathetic that you wish your own son hadn’t been born, or worse that you would have aborted them.
This is what i mean when I say that every disabled person has to prove that they are worthy of existing. I am disabled, but unlike Stephen I can live independently, and I still hear how people like me would be better off if we had never lived. It’s disgusting.
I pray Stephen is in a safe environment where he is truly loved. He deserves at least that while his mother advocates for the ability to kill people like him.
ableism at it’s finest
This reminds me of a couple of verses which equate hatred to murder in the eyes of God.
Wow…just wow
“I Wish I’d Aborted the Son I’ve Spent 47 Years Caring For”
Published
Obscure Fandoms 